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The habit of being anxious

"If you think that feeling bad will change your past experiences, you will come to the wrong planet." Because there is no such system on earth! "(Dr. Van Dyer)

There are a lot of problems everywhere. The colors on the faces have faded and life has become very difficult. The office, the shop, the business and the domestic and economic situation ... all cause trouble. There is no good news and no one is happy with us. We pick up the office worries and bring them home and go to the office and open the bundle of home worries. Everyone blames others for their problems. In such cases we forget the fact that the biggest responsibility for turning worries into happiness lies with ourselves. When we are anxious, our children also become "anxious". All our lives we wait for the situation to change.

"Anxiety arises not from circumstances, but from thoughts." (Wasif Ali Wasif)

Our children are our future. As parents, when we are upset, the effects of our anxiety are compounded on our children and they start to get upset too ... for whatever reason. In fact, parents think that our worries will only bother us. But, the reality is quite different. When we are upset, it has a profound effect on our loved ones, especially our families. The most sensitive of these families are the children of our household.

Babies are like delicate buds. These buds wither at the sight of your troubled face. Remember that the worries that you give important food cannot get rid of. If you accept all the responsibilities of your life and love your business and work, the worries will go away on their own.
A good thinker at home can improve the whole home environment. Of course, the environment has a lot to do with human life. An unfavorable environment can sometimes lead to the loss of the highest mental qualities.

With the right environment and love, children reach the peak of development. Improving the role of children requires improving the home environment. Happiness does not come from the market. They have to create themselves. Smiling faces are a sign of liveliness, the troubled man becomes accustomed to pitying himself and he seeks the help of others. Such a person considers himself weak and wants to remain weak.
Leave the worries of office and shop there, because at the time of death no one remembers the business but at that time his wish is that I wish I had spent more time with my wife and children.

Here are some practical steps you can take to get rid of anxiety and mood swings.

Find out the implications of your problem:

Children are most affected by their parents' facial expressions. Children see their parents' anxiety through their faces and become upset themselves. Although they do not know why all this is happening, because it is all unconscious, they are still hesitant because of it. And if a parent is constantly upset, then the child imposes this condition on himself as his personal condition. He feels insecure even in his own home.
If you as a parent are worried for any reason, find out your problem. Find out why you're upset.
Parents don't want their child to be as upset as they are, but they do. So when they are upset, the vibrations of this energy are transmitted to the child. The first thing to do in such a situation is to know your own state of anxiety. Blaming or blaming yourself will not solve the problem.
Some parents say that their parents used to be upset in the same way, so they have inherited this upset mood. But, this is a common cause of anxiety, and it is also very minor. It's not that it can't be controlled. If you want to see your child succeed, you must give your child the personality you want to create in him.

Learn how to manage anxiety:
If the mother or father is suffering from stress, depression or anxiety, it is very difficult for them to teach or move their child to happiness. In that case, as a parent, you must first see an authorized mental health professional. He or she will help you find the cause of your anxiety. He will teach you different ways of managing stress. When you use these methods to control your anxiety, you will be able to prevent the transmission of anxiety to your child.
Psychologists believe that one of the most effective ways to protect a child from anxiety is for their parents to be patient and tolerant. They have the ability to control the daily stress of their lives.

Explain your concern:

This advice can be indigestible for most parents. Because parents try to be an ideal in front of their children and also wish that they don't get upset because of our troubles. In this case, we need to be aware that if it is inappropriate to tell the child everything, it can be dangerous to hide everything from the child.
Telling your child about your problem can give the child confidence that you are paying attention to it. Also, talking to the child in a positive way will help to understand that these conditions are essential to human life. The advantage is that you will be able to reduce the severity of your anxiety in this way.

For example, your child is late for school. You shout and get angry. When you two meet in the evening, sit him down and ask him if you remember that I was angry with you this morning when you were late for school. Then tell him that your anger was not justified, it was for his own good. However, if the anger was high, also mention why you were so angry. You may be under pressure from the office or you may be confused.
One of the benefits of this is that the child will try to get out on time the next morning. Also, they will know that these negative conditions are part of life. He will prepare himself for these things in advance so it will be possible for him to plan ahead. Such children are ready to face difficulties later in life with more confidence when problems arise. Such children are able to control their nerves even in times of trouble, which is a great virtue of any successful person.

It is not possible for problems not to arise. But planning ahead for them will definitely ease the burden. You can also include your children in this advance planning. For example, if you want to tell your child how bad you are feeling, mention it to them and tell them what you and they can do together to end it.
However, the purpose of this conversation should not be to harass your child in your own way or to blame him or her for your problem. Rather, the real purpose of this exercise is to enable you to work with your child (and spouse) to manage your anxiety.